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Can I Get A Witness?!

It’s ladies night! My girls and I are going out to hear some comedy. Let’s do this!

You’ve got mail…..
“You’re beautiful. I would love to take you out.” Signed, Melvin. “Thank you”, I replied. And “Sounds like a plan.” I gave him my number for us to get together. He called right away. ( Hmmm. I don’t know if that’s good or bad). After the introductions, I discovered he had two jobs and a few roommates. Yes, I said a few. YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME!

Lord, help me Jesus! I had to write about this boy man ( amongst others 😳)! Read all about it and get your copy today!

Question: Why?

Ladies Night ~ Kool & The Gang

Play Your Cards Right

I need x-y or z. So, I’ll take whatever I can get. Scratch that! I beg to differ. When it comes to dating and relationships, I want what I want and I’m gonna get what I want. Take that!

Ladies, Mr. Pitiful (Otis Redding) is not Mr. Right no matter how much they beg Baby I Need Your Loving ( Four Tops). Men, Stop! In The Name Of Love (The Supremes). You both know as well as I do, Something Just Ain’t Righ (Keith Sweat) and Once You Get Started (Rufus feat. Chaka Kahn), it’s hard to stop.

But you don’t understand, you say? Oh, no! I get it. It’s Complicated (Rihanna), you say? It’s Tricky (RUN DMC), yes. Not complicated at all.

So, don’t be Silly (Deniece Williams)! Play your cards right from the start!

What card are you going to play? When? Why?

Now or Later

Things that make you go “Hmmm…”

While dating, you want to know certain things right out the gate. For example, you want to know their age, occupation and maybe what was their longest relationship? You might even want to know why it ended, right? So, why are some questions reserved for later? Like, are you married? Do you have kids? Do you want (more) kids? Do you live with your parents?

Better yet. Why are some things unspoken of until later? Like do you have kids out there in the world that you don’t claim? Do you even like kids? Do you want to get married? Do you want kids before or after you’re married? What is your religion? Do you still live with you parents? Or, do your parents live with you? Do you have or have you EVER had a sexually transmitted disease?

Live in the land of “and”….


Why not ask ALL of these questions now?
(you’ll thank me yourself later.)

Friends & Lovers

In his song How Can We Be Lovers, Michael Bolton poses the question ‘How can we be lovers if we can’t be friends?’ Ooh! Ooh! I know! The answer is: YOU CAN’T!

People always say they’re in love, dating or married to their best friends. So, how do you introduce them to others? Let’s think this through.

Who do you talk to when you’re feeling down? Who do you share your deepest, darkest secrets with? And who do you go to about your love life? Your best friend, right? So, on the flip side. Who do you go to to about troubles with your best friend? Who’s shoulder do you cry on about the job? Money matters? Your goals and dreams? Your lover, yes? Well, what if they are one in the same? Who do you turn to? Who are you talking to and who’s talking back? If you’re angry at one, who’s going to be there for you? When you curse out your man, what’s your BFF going to say when you tell ’em? What if you get kicked to the curb or call it quits with your love, is your BFF going to be there to pick up the pieces? Are you thinking what I’m thinking???? Sing it Xscape: Who Can I Run To?
Now, let me be Dr. Phil for a moment…How’s that workin’ out for ya?

Before you know it, you’re going Halfcrazy like Musiq Soulchild singing saying Cause when we kissed, the moment after I looked at you different…Damn I just want my friend back!

Question: Do you believe in homie-lover-friends? And who’s your favorite?

What Are You Going To do?

The other night, I began to flip through the TV channels and stumbled across a new reality show called It Takes A Church. It’s a brand new reality dating show that takes place in the church community. This episode there were three male contestants and a young lady whom would choose two out of the three men to take her out on individual dates. After the individual dates, the young lady had to choose one of them to continue dating towards developing a serious relationship.

Contestant #1: A father with a young daughter and baby mama (drama????)
Contestant #2: Believes family comes first over spouse
Contestant #3: What’s his issue? Nothing. Just an all around good guy.

Who are you going to pick? She explains, contestant #3 is someone she would turn to for advice, like a brother. Contestant #2 said family comes first over your spouse; she disagreed and needed to know why he didn’t agree with her. Contestant #1, she wanted to know more about the baby mama. Hmmm, what’s his story.

So, what are you going to do girlfriend? Drum roll please….
Hit the road, jack, my brother, good guy, #3! Really? YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME! You say you would go to him for advice, right? Then, that makes him a good bad guy??? You only turn to good bad guys for advice, right ? After all, that’s why they’re good bad guys!! Oh-Lord-help-me-her-Jesus!

I’m thinkin’ it takes a church, a hope, a wish AND a prayer for you, girlfriend to find a mate! Good-googly-moogly! It’s madness I tell you. And there’s always a method to the madness! ALWAYS. Do you want a partner or a project when it comes to a mate???? Inquiring minds want to know.

Just like Zapp & Roger, I know it’s So Ruff So Tuff out here. But, you gotta Think, think, think like Aretha Franklin. When you feel the loneliness, lust Love like Musiq Soulchildyou can sing Sweet Love with Anita Baker and be ready to Co-Sign like SWV instead of being So Sick of love songs and so tired of tears like Ne-Yo, and letting anybody AND everybody hear you Roar like Katy Perry. Come on now! Get with the program!

Question: What was your dating/mate challenge and how did it turn out?

Don’t Talk to Me That Way!

Two people agree. Two people disagree. Some would say they would begin to

fuss and fight

Who do you think you’re talking to?…” “Don’t talk to me that way! ” Or, when you get your panties feelings in a bunch personally involved “I don’t like your tone! ” quickly comes out. Well!

What about texting? Or even writing? Some would say using all caps means you are yelling. Really? So, how do you handle it then? “Don’t text me in that tone of voice! ” “Don’t write to me in that tone of voice!” That’s my reply. Oooooh! Caps just chap my hide!

What chaps your hide that someone should never say, especially online?

More or Less

Have you ever heard someone say something and then say …”more or less.” For example, I have money, more or less. I have good credit, more or less. I have a boyfriend/girlfriend, more or less. Wait. Huh? I’m confused. What exactly does that mean?

Have you ever heard someone say “Less is more.” Or “More is better than less.” So, when it comes to dating is it more or less that wins? For example, “I’m not tryin’ to be rude, I’m just being real…” (News flash. When you put rude and real in the same sentence, they mean one in the same. Claim it! Don’t be scared). More is not better than less. Contrary to what you say, The more “rude” you are the less “real” others see. In your case, the less you say, the better!

On the other hand, saying less is not always more of a good thing either. “Call/text me”, you say. Or “Send me a message (online), you say. So, I do. And I find myself doing all the talking. Why is that? You say you’re not that much of a talker or that you are a shy/quiet guy. Paaaaah-leeeeeeze. You just don’t have much, a lot anything good to say. Humor me why don’t you?

When it comes down to it, I need more. I want more. I like, love, desire more.

So, more or less what say you?